From The Banks Of The Muddy Missouri

Here's a good one for ya... My step-daughter's(we have sole custody of her) mother is a Major Dead Beat. She has 5 kids. Out of these 5 she has custody of only 1. She is to be paying child support on my step-daughter of $134 a month. She now over $5000 behind, doesn't call her, doesn't send letters or cards. They haven't seen each other for since March of this year. We have talked with the Kansas Child Support Enforcement several times only to hear, "we are working on it". That's bull!!!!! The last time we talked to them, they finally told us that they were going to start working with Missouri on this since she now lives in Raytown. We can't get any help at all from the state, but this low life is get every type of help from the state.
My ex husband pays his child support every 2 weeks no problem at all. My husband pays his every 2 weeks no problem at all. Because of the way both of the payments are set up at the end of the year we get a letter stating that they are behind. Every year, I call them state and they check and yes, everything is fine. It's all because of when they get paid and the payments get sent in by their employer.
I'm so sick of women getting away with stuff like this.

I have not been in this situation personally, however, when I was younger, and not so smart, I knew 2 young females that had their child taken away from them. Neither of which at the time were ordered to pay child support. Upon looking back, as I got older, and away from these deadbeat moms, I realized that when this all happened, and I was perturbed at the judicial system, the system did the right thing. Now, let me say this. Being a female, I can't imagine losing custody of my children for any reason. However, if I ever did, I find no reason, whatsoever NOT to be ordered to pay child support as would the father if the roles were reversed. So I too wonder why these women are not being held accountable for their actions. It is so true, if they were deadbeat fathers, they would be getting the book thrown at them. I hope and pray diesel that your family member will get some help. I will keep him and the children in my thoughts and prayers. And he deserves a big hug and pat on the back for taking care of his children the best he can. He stepped up to the plate when they needed him.

No, but this was 20 years ago. And times have certainly changed. I do stand by what I said however, that in todays times, a woman should have to abide by anything a man should when it comes to her child/children. If she loses custody or shares custody and she is required to pay child support and/or carry medical insurance, etc. then she should be required to carry out the judges orders. Too many times I feel like women aren't being held to it as would be the men. Is this because they are women? I don't know this answer, but wouldn't it be great to have that answer? And as I said before, IF (and I emphasize IF) I were ever in the aforementioned situation I would abide by the judges orders, as I would definitely expect their father to do so.

It is all a government game. We have a bunch of old farts sitting on the bench living in a fog, listening to a bunch of stupid lawyers. These lawyers have been in front of the same judge for years, and they all play the same game. The guy usually gets screwed, and lets face it, It will remain like that until we get off our butts and start writing letters to get this changed.

Being a mother I could not live with myself not taking care of my child. It is not only missouri it is kansas too. My daughters dad owes over $28,000.00 in past due child support. He did not call her on her birthday or get her anything. I have remarried and she has given up on her real dad whom she has called by his first name ever since she could talk and is calling my new husband dad. The courts have failed and so has SRS. If you go with an outside agency they take a lot of what they collect. I have given ks all the information they need. It is now a felony on his record and they know where he lives and what he drives but still have not arrested him. I get no help from srs or the state and they should pay what he owes and then maybe they will do their jobs and go after him. Same for the judges who kept giving him chance after chance. He made the be he must lie in it. Soryy to hear it is a mother doing this. How sas, but the children will know who really cared when it really counts!!!

Well i pay my child support, and have for 15 years, I am behind $400.00 only because the courts can't keep track of anything.
But what really pisses me off is, My son is wearing hand me down clothes. This woman is the laziest, vindictive, lying, none caring woman i have ever seen.
Let a bunch of women start crying the blues to some dumb lawyer in the state house and they pass another law.
You women need to get off your butts and get a job and quite whining.
People of the United States, Lets band together and get some laws changed ourselves

Yes, you are right Sk8ingCoach, I guess i am dealing with a freeloading female who is in the system and she is going to ride it for all it is worth.
What ever happen to 3 years and you are off State aid?
I would be more than happy to back anyone who wants to start working for a different means.
Time to get rid of the old, old judges, ans old, old Lawyers.

Yes i think it is time to make the Ex's stand up and be counted. When people say they are supporting there ex's, that real close to being true, as long as she gets what she wants its ok, but when the kid needs something, she sends him to me, welllllllll that is about to change.
Sk8ingcoach, I hope you get something one of these days.

Hmmm...this all goes back to the point that you shouldn't have children if you cannot support them. Historically men have made much higher salaries than women. Don't get me wrong, I believe that women should pay child support as well as men. Still though, why have a child if you don't make enough money by yourself to support it? For the record, I haven't received child support from my ex in over 10 years but I'm not whining about it. Karma will get his butt. I just take care of business and support my children. I chose not to have kids until I knew that I could take care of them by myself if need be. My point is clear - Don't make them unless you can take care of them.

I understand the point that mothers should pay child support also. My fiance and I had custody of his cousins daughter for almost one year. The mother, nor the father, offered up any kind of support, not one penny, EVER! And to make things worse, when the state tried to get the parents to attend court dates they (the biological parents) started calling the caseworker constantly making threats of physical harm to my family. Because of the threats (almost every day for two months) the state came and took the precious girl from us and placed her in a foster home, where she still remains today. It tore my family up inside and we have been allowed no contact with "our daughter". Also, my biological daughters father has never payed a penny in child support, and she is five and a half years old. I've gotten NO help from the state and he now lives in Las Vegas and I still get no help. This system is definitely BROKEN!!!