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by Dramamama from Marlboro, MA

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Yesterday I took my 87 year old father in law to do grocery shopping, since his car is broken down. (yes, he can still drive) While we were going up and down the aisles at the store, he was checking off the items on the list. He wanted some health food organic type tortillas. I looked at the price and told him they were $6 a bag, and he should get the cheap store brand. He said they were lower in salt and fat. I just looked at him, and said, 'you are 87 years old. I think you'll be ok with the store brand'.
Now in his cart, he had 3 big bags of cheetos, cheese nips, 2 lg bags of Peanut M&M's, several bottles of soda, bottles of cranberry juice, oranges, green peppers, brocoli, and several stouffers dinners of stuffed cabbage, and various other meals, many soups, potato salad, baloney and a loaf of bread.
He stores his junk food in his 50 yr old oven as he never turns it on, and puts his food in his 50+ yr old refrigerator. He stores his frozen foods in a large freezer in his basement, and it's filled to the brim with microwave dinners, and Klondike bars.
I left him with his cheetos, and M&M's, next to his easy chair and his remote control on his side table. He was going to make himself a hot lunch, then watch all the 'judge shows'.
Ahh the good life!

I thought how nice it must be, to have survived to a ripe old age and be entitled to have half your shopping cart dedicated to your favorite junk foods.
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fenwaydav read my blog view my photos
Jan 23, 2008 | 12:40 AM

Hi DMama.. It reminds me of my soon to be in March 87 year old Mother. She tries to keep a watch on what she eats due to her diabetes. My sister who lives near her in Jersey is always telling me what mommy ate that she shouldn't have. We went to the Chinese Buffet and she had this and that and the other thing. We went here and she had a giant piece of cake. She had this she had that... That's all I hear from her. My brother and I feel this way at 87 she can eat what ever the heck she wants.. She has issues with her heart and with other things and like she tells us, she is not getting out of this world alive. She keeps some goodies in the house and why not. By the way, she just gave her car to my great niece who is off to college. She was driving up to a few months ago.

SuzieFromPelham read my blog view my photos
Jan 23, 2008 | 12:30 PM

hello mama & FWD, my parents are 73 and 76 and for the most part healthy. Up until June of this year they cared for my 44 yr old brother who was disabled, and my dad was strong as an ox, to be able to carry & bathe him and mom was feeding and nurturing still. He died in June and they are just now starting to feel well, after both (esp. my dad) had been sick physically and mentally since his passing. Dad's got his goodies, esp. chocolate, cakes and sweets in general. Mom has diabetes and tries to watch her diet, and still works partime in Home Goods, as a cashier (11-15 hours) God bless them, for what they have undergone (and survived) this past year. It must be so hard to lose a child.
Cherish the moments you can spend with them...

fenwaydav read my blog view my photos
Jan 23, 2008 | 3:47 PM

Hi Suzy, The worst thing for a parent to loss a child. My brother was 16 when he was murdered. That was in 73. A year before that, we lost my father to cancer. A double whammy for my mother, but she was strong for my brothers and sister. She was never the same. By the way, I wanted to get in on your blog on music, but it was just to crowded. I was born in 53 and inherited my sisters 45's when she got married. Connie Francis and the rest. I have always loved my female singers... Thanks DMamma for letting me take some space...

Dramamama read my blog
Jan 23, 2008 | 5:04 PM

My mom worked full time in a bookstore, until she had a stroke at 78, and died a year later. We FORCED my father in law to retire from being a mechanic at age 80, otherwise, he'd still be under the hood of a car. We have rented out his shop, so he still has his shop.
Fenway, your mom was probably never the same because she was depressed and in the 70's, and people didn't seek help as much then as they do now. Still very hard to recover from. When you lose a child you lose a future.

fenwaydav read my blog view my photos
Jan 23, 2008 | 6:25 PM

My mother never understood depression and mental illness. Her answer to me was "Pull yourself up by the bootstraps" I guess that's how her generation did things. It was hard to convince her that my drug and alcohol problems were a illness. She thought it was laziness. I wonder if she would have had a better quality of life if she sort a little help. We have become friends again but I lost many years.

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Dramamama

Mom, married, 2 sons. Raised on West coast, (CA & UT) married to the best man in the world for 25 years this September and moved to the beautiful Boston area. I work with kids in the schools, and do a lot of theater work--directing and teaching. Active in church and community.

Member Since: 12/27/2006