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Ever go out with a group of friends for dinner, and someone has to leave before the check arrives?  What do you do? Ask for money? Pick up the check?

Well next week a manners expert will be joining us on the FOX25 Morning News (Tuesday May 27) and we're going to have her answer your questions. So post your questions below and stay tuned.


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momx2kids
May 21, 2008 | 8:38 AM

What can I do to teach my kids better manners?
Eating with mouth open, sitting at table properly, etc. Is there a class that I can enroll them in? It seems kids these days do not have a lot of manners and I do not want my children to be like that. My children are 10 and 12!

Also, What do you do if you pick something up for a friend and they do not offer to pay you for that item?

Cindy_Fitzgibbon read my blog view my photos
May 21, 2008 | 9:03 AM

File under 'better left unsaid'-
What to do when your child has no filter...(other than not going out in public)

I've got a 2 and 1/2 year old who loves to state the obvious when its not polite to do so!
No malicious intent... just pure... honest observations. For example: "Mommy- that's a boy (when it's not) or "Mommy- that's Nana (when it's not- just a younger person with some grey) etc.
I'm sure these comments are hurtful- help!

fenwaydav read my blog view my photos
May 21, 2008 | 9:27 AM

Why do certain people when dining put food in their mouth with the fork upside down. I've tried this when dining out or in the company of other's doing it and it feels so totally unnatural

Mannersmith read my blog
May 21, 2008 | 11:21 AM

Aren't thank you notes old fashioned? Can't kids just say "thank you" at the party for teh present?

FisherCat read my blog view my photos
May 21, 2008 | 12:34 PM

Personally these kids today think they are privileged an think becuase they are privileged they think its all for their benefit and their Advantage and dont have to say thank you or even appreciate what we do for them or others do for them or dont think they are required to be polite or have manners...I have no question but a comment an and a lesson and how i was taught manners an etiquette at the table...My good friends mom worked laying out her food creations an meals for STOP AN SHOP adds and A PBS show so when i went to eat over at his house it was amazing how i saw ethique an manners were displayed at the evening dinner table even in the kitchen the professionalism in the Kitchen I loved going there to have her creations an displayed of the meal an how everything was laid out an the display of the proper etiquette....yet very fun! I was gutter snipe who thought I was in heaven with the fine smells of coming from the Kitchen an the Dinner table an the rooms atmosphere its has stayed in mind all my life....Like they say Learn by example... display it and they will learn.....My impressions of what had been so lucky to experience was a lesson in life...an fine dinning an cuisine....and the wine was a beautiful thing not a drunken thing....It was taught correctly to me by some a very fine Italian Family and being half Sicilian i loved the whole cultural experience.

I'm very disappointed in our own family dinner experiences at the nightly table...My wife will read talk on the phone to her sisters I TAKE NO CALLS AT DINNER...my kid has no clue no matter how much i explain

C_Fox read my blog view my photos
May 21, 2008 | 1:02 PM

I have heard that when food is cooked in a small casserole dish (such as stuffed shrimp), you are not suppose to eat the food out of the casserole, but set it aside and spoon it onto the plate it comes on using the tablespoon that usually comes with it. I seldom see people do this, but isn't this the proper way?

kayleisnana read my blog view my photos
May 21, 2008 | 1:15 PM

When I was growing up, we were not allowed to make a sound at the dinner table when my father was home. God forbid your fork hit the plate, or you made a mouth noise while chewing. No talking allowed, and oh, my God--no laughing! When my kids were growing up, dinner time was fun! We talked and laughed--it was the best part of the day re-hashing the events of the day. To this very day, my husband and I continue to do the same, and it's even more fun when the grandchildren are eating with us!!! We have no problem combining table manners with fun!!!

jovanone read my blog view my photos
May 21, 2008 | 2:04 PM

Kids learn by example, they learn from watching their parents, they watch what their parents do and then they try to mimic them. So, if the parents aren't practicing good eating habits at home how can the kids? You don't need an expert to tell you this. It seems to me the parents need to be taught good eating habits so they can pass it on to their kids.

BTW Kim if a person who was eating out with me or with a group of friends and just decided to get up and leave without paying, I would say excuse me so and so before you leave you need to leave us some money for the tab.

Cindy I don’t think anyone would be offended being mistaken for a young ones grandmother coming from a 2 year old. Kids at that age are just innocent kids doing what comes natural to them, their just young kids being honest making beautiful honest mistakes. When they see someone with gray hair their reminded of grandma or grandpa. I don’t think you can do anything about it so just laugh it off and enjoy it while you can, they’ll out grow it soon enough.

kayleisnana read my blog view my photos
May 21, 2008 | 2:56 PM

Cindy--There is nothing cuter than that which comes from the mouths of a two year old! My two youngest grandchildren are both 2, and I can't think of anything funnier! The timing isn't always the best, but that's what makes it so funny. Enjoy--they grow up way too fast!

Jovanone--I agree-If someone has enough ***** to think he/she can skip out on paying at least his/her portion of the bill, I certainly wouldn't hesitate to put my hand out and ask for his/her money! They deserve to be embarrassed!!! I wouldn't be too quick to want to go out to dinner with that person again, for sure!!!

RosiesMom17
May 21, 2008 | 3:41 PM

As more same sex couples get married - how do you address the happy couple?

RosiesMom17
May 21, 2008 | 3:41 PM

As more same sex couples get married - how do you address the happy couple?

RosiesMom17
May 21, 2008 | 3:43 PM

As more same sex couples marry - how do you address the happy couple?

sirB read my blog
May 21, 2008 | 5:29 PM

I go out for dinner with friends on Sunday nights. It's always the same place. Every now and then an other group comes in, same people every time. They get loud and have fun, I have no problem with people having a good time when dining out. But one of the girls in that group is constantly laughing at nothing and it is more than just a laugh. It is top-of-the-lung shrieking and it is very rude. Everyone stares, you can hear this obnoxious persons shrieks in the mens room which is located at the other side of the restaurant. Sunday we were there watching the Celts and everyone was cheering and excited which was fine, except the brain piercing hi pitch of the rude patron. When the game came down to the wire I said "everybody calm down, we're sending Labron home tonight!" After the game was over a woman in that group (not the rude one)said to me" why did you tell me to be quiet?" I replied " I said EVERYBODY calm down, and you're not everybody, but your friend in the corners screaches are going right through my head. Their are other people in the room you know." They both looked at me with guilt, especially the rude one. Was I out of line?

Chip read my blog view my photos
May 21, 2008 | 6:13 PM

Cindy...cherish the moments...write down what they did for future blackmail!!!

lilsusie view my photos
May 21, 2008 | 9:42 PM

You know what I find to be annoying when my family go out to eat? Parents not being in charge of their children. One time my two girls were about four and seven years old. Well, there's this adorable little girl sitting at the table next to ours. She gets off of her seat and tease my girls , I guess she wanted to play with them. For me I make sure my girls sits down and be on their best behaver when we go out in public. Anyway, it was cute the first two times, then when our meal come. The little girl continue to bother my kids. I did nothing and said nothing because working with children I guess I'm immune to them, so basically the only thing I did was smile at the little girl and parents hoping that they get the hint of we are trying to eat.

mattatonic read my blog
May 21, 2008 | 9:56 PM

I want to take a stab at Rosie's question...

Introduce the couple starting with the one of them you know best, such as if she is a coworker or friend bringing her wife to a social gathering. "This is my coworker Janice and her wife Evelyn.)

If you don't really know one better than the other - they are both coworkers, or friends- introduce them equally and not as "so and so and her wife".

Remember: even with straight couples, it isn't necessarily necessary to even say "and his wife" or "and her husband". Saying "I'd like you to meet June and Bob" is just as appropriate.

mattatonic read my blog
May 21, 2008 | 10:03 PM

Cindy... I have to relate to you a story I have been told that happened when I was probably about 2 years old.

When I was little, the neighborhood I grew up in was filled with predominantly white families. There was, however, one very nice black family who lived a few doors down, and my sister was friend with the son in the family whose name was Albert. Now having never gone to preschool, and at that age having limited interaction with anyone other than my close family (who were all white)and their friends, it should have been little surprise to my poor red faced mother the day we were out shopping at Zayre (remember Zayre?) and I pointed to a black man at the checkout and shouted "Look mum... another Albert!"

JuneInMA read my blog view my photos
May 21, 2008 | 10:54 PM

Bob?! Who's Bob??! :)

Cindy, aren't kids just so cute??! Don't worry about what they say now, on the contrary, enjoy them. Their sweet innocence is something that's lost too quickly.

terriers08
May 22, 2008 | 12:16 PM

Cindy, great story! How embarrassed do you get when you 2 and 1/2 year old says some of those things in public? LOL

In all seriousness, that is great. As June said, it just shows the innocence of youth and that is a wonderful thing.

lovelypatsfan
May 22, 2008 | 2:05 PM

I can't stand when people don't send Thanks you notes and they are not old fashioned. I send them every time some one gives me a gift. As far as children sending them out why not take that opportunity to do some arts and crafts on a rainy day and have them make their own. Occupies a rainy day, gives them a chance to express themselves, teaches them good manners and helps with motor skills and possibly (depending on the age) spelling and writing skills. Plus the recipient will be thrilled to get a hand made thank you.

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