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by Kim_Carrigan from Dedham, MA

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Hello Fellow Bloggers

Do you have questions concerning wedding etiquette during this wedding season?

How much should you spend on a gift? What if the destination wedding is too expensive for you?

Send me your questions and our etiquette expert will answer them next Tuesday during our "Wedding Week" on the Fox 25 Morning News!

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sirB read my blog
Jun 4, 2008 | 7:42 AM

I always give cash. I find that is the best gift for a young couple starting out.

What if the couple is financially well-established? I find myself clueless as to what to give as a gift.

If the destination is out of my financial reach, I have no problem gracefully declining. I don't think one should expect people to drop a grand or two to see them wed.

fenwaydav read my blog view my photos
Jun 4, 2008 | 7:42 AM

At the last minute, your spouse gets sick and can't go. Is it acceptable to bring one of your children? (Lets say 16 or older).

maineicekid
Jun 4, 2008 | 8:26 AM

I have never been to a wedding shower before. What type of gift should I get and how much is reasonable to spend? I have a pretty tight income but I don't want my gift to be cheap compared to the other guests.

Also, do I sign the gift from me and my significant other, or should it just be from me since he's not going to be at the shower? (It's his cousin's wedding)

djsargent
Jun 4, 2008 | 8:27 AM

What is an acceptable cash amount to give as a gift? My husband says it has to be enough to cover our meals. I say we were invited guests, we are not obligated to cover our meals.

pjcat
Jun 4, 2008 | 8:28 AM

A few years back, a couple attended our wedding and "failed to remember" a gift. Now, they are getting married out of town and we cannot go. We just received the invitation - what is the correct thing to do?

fenway15
Jun 4, 2008 | 8:35 AM

Has new etiquette been written for couples who live together before they get married? If they have already established a household, is it appropriate for them to have a shower, a registry, etc.? Do the same gift rules apply for these couples as they would to a couple who do not live together?

fenwaydav read my blog view my photos
Jun 4, 2008 | 8:38 AM

pjcat, I'd love to take a stab at that if I may. You fold four fingers and leave the middle one standing.

kayleisnana read my blog view my photos
Jun 4, 2008 | 10:13 AM

YEARS AGO, WHEN MY HUSBAND AND I MARRIED, WE RECEIVED A "RE-GIFT" FROM SOMEONE WHOM WE CONSIDERED TO BE A GOOD FRIEND. THIS GIFT HAD ACTUALLY BEEN GIVEN TO HIS BROTHER WHEN HE GOT MARRIED. APPARENTLY HE USED IT AND THEN PROCEEDED TO PUT IT BACK IN ITS ORIGINAL BOX, WITHOUT CLEANING IT, MIND YOU. IT WAS A BACON GRILLER, AND WHEN I TOOK IT OUT OF THE BOX IT WAS LOADED WITH GREASE AND BACON REMNANTS. WHAT IS THE PROPER ETIQUETTE FOR THANKING ONE FOR THIS FAUX PAUX? SHOULD WE HAVE THANKED THEM FOR TRYING IT OUT TO MAKE SURE IT WAS IN WORKING ORDER?

jackson21
Jun 4, 2008 | 12:15 PM

I'm in my friends wedding this summer, and I absolutely hate the man she's marrying and wish she wouldn't. I think she's making the biggest mistake of her life. Should I tell her or keep quiet?

Also, I can't afford a thing on her wedding registry. What is an appropriate gift to give in that situation?

stacyinspencer view my photos
Jun 4, 2008 | 5:12 PM

We are invited to a wedding this fall. The couple in question already own their home. I already gave them a somewhat pricey engagement present from the only place they are registered. What should I do for their wedding present? There isn't much left to purchase on the gift registry, and I want to leave something for others to buy. I have an idea for a gift, but don't want to give them something they haven't asked for, or is it ok to do that? I guess cash is the obvious answer, but I'm not sure how much to give.

stacyinspencer view my photos
Jun 4, 2008 | 5:19 PM

We are invited to a beach wedding this summer. The invitation doesn't say how to dress, but the reception is in a hotel ballroom. Do I wear capris and a T-shirt or a more formal dress? (The groom is wearing khakis and a button down shirt. Not sure about the bride though).

Chip read my blog view my photos
Jun 4, 2008 | 10:39 PM

A veriation on fenwaydav's questiion..If you spouse gets sick, is it acceptable t bring one of Bill Clinton's girlfriends.....kidding.

Penba
Jun 5, 2008 | 8:20 AM

A great unique wedding gift is to take the wedding invitation, and have it framed with pressed flowers around it. Contact your local garden club to find talented people who do this. Guaranteed to be remembered!

stressedbride
Jun 5, 2008 | 9:19 AM

My fiance and I are paying for our wedding. My future mother-in-law insists that we invite a couple to the wedding. Nobody else wants the couple to attend (including my fiance and myself). Should I put my foot down and refuse to invite the couple (at the risk of ruining my relationship with my future mother-in-law) or should I invite them to the wedding and sit them at a table by themselves because no other guest wants to sit with them?

lil_mama1
Jun 5, 2008 | 9:21 AM

I am in a wedding this summer and the only one in the wedding party that lives far away. I committed to being in this wedding but how many other things am I obligated to do, such as showers, bachelorette parties, picking out dresses, etc? I have a baby and it is hard for me to keep leaving town, plus the expense it adding up!

TheEliteOne read my blog
Jun 5, 2008 | 2:09 PM

There must be a few English posters. Yes, the gift should at least cover the meal. Stay home if you feel differently. Where you can you go for two people, dinner, music, free parking, etc. for under a hundred dollars. I think $100.00 is the starting point.

As far as being in the wedding party, say no if your heart is not there. The bride will manage and will find someone excited about being asked.

foreveryvonne view my photos
Jun 7, 2008 | 11:52 PM

Hi,
Do you tip the servers during an open bar?
Thank you,
Yvonne

Zigulis101803 read my blog view my photos
Jun 8, 2008 | 3:05 PM

Hi Kim,
It is the though that counts when you have to plan a wedding and have to write down family, friends and reletives who you know who will be coming to the wedding and when we got married we had our church family help us prepare for our wedding plans, so hope that this helpful to others who are getting married as well.

Thanks,
Casimir T.Zigulis

josephine-binaca read my blog view my photos
Jun 9, 2008 | 12:48 AM

Penba that is a great idea. Ive also seen poeple give a unique photo or meaningful artwork but leave it unframed (until later) in a place where the guests can sign the border
also it may seem unsentimental but newlyweds and always use picture frames, gift certificates to furniture stores/ supermarkets/ home improvement centers/ . red sox tickets. gas cards. therapuetic massage.
its not such a strange thing if you arrange a basket with some of these things around a bottle of wine

yellowmandm90
Jun 9, 2008 | 9:51 AM

Whhat is the etiquette for addressing the outer envelope for the wedding invitation for a gay married couple? My cousin recently married her partner and I'm at a loss on how to write her invite. What titles do I give them? Do I do Mrs. and Mrs. on one line or do I list them on separate lines with different last names? I don't know if either of them changed their last name and I'm not very close with them or my uncle. Thanks!

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