Kim_Carrigan's Blog

At the last minute, your spouse gets sick and can't go. Is it acceptable to bring one of your children? (Lets say 16 or older).

What is an acceptable cash amount to give as a gift? My husband says it has to be enough to cover our meals. I say we were invited guests, we are not obligated to cover our meals.

Has new etiquette been written for couples who live together before they get married? If they have already established a household, is it appropriate for them to have a shower, a registry, etc.? Do the same gift rules apply for these couples as they would to a couple who do not live together?

YEARS AGO, WHEN MY HUSBAND AND I MARRIED, WE RECEIVED A "RE-GIFT" FROM SOMEONE WHOM WE CONSIDERED TO BE A GOOD FRIEND. THIS GIFT HAD ACTUALLY BEEN GIVEN TO HIS BROTHER WHEN HE GOT MARRIED. APPARENTLY HE USED IT AND THEN PROCEEDED TO PUT IT BACK IN ITS ORIGINAL BOX, WITHOUT CLEANING IT, MIND YOU. IT WAS A BACON GRILLER, AND WHEN I TOOK IT OUT OF THE BOX IT WAS LOADED WITH GREASE AND BACON REMNANTS. WHAT IS THE PROPER ETIQUETTE FOR THANKING ONE FOR THIS FAUX PAUX? SHOULD WE HAVE THANKED THEM FOR TRYING IT OUT TO MAKE SURE IT WAS IN WORKING ORDER?

We are invited to a wedding this fall. The couple in question already own their home. I already gave them a somewhat pricey engagement present from the only place they are registered. What should I do for their wedding present? There isn't much left to purchase on the gift registry, and I want to leave something for others to buy. I have an idea for a gift, but don't want to give them something they haven't asked for, or is it ok to do that? I guess cash is the obvious answer, but I'm not sure how much to give.

A veriation on fenwaydav's questiion..If you spouse gets sick, is it acceptable t bring one of Bill Clinton's girlfriends.....kidding.

My fiance and I are paying for our wedding. My future mother-in-law insists that we invite a couple to the wedding. Nobody else wants the couple to attend (including my fiance and myself). Should I put my foot down and refuse to invite the couple (at the risk of ruining my relationship with my future mother-in-law) or should I invite them to the wedding and sit them at a table by themselves because no other guest wants to sit with them?

There must be a few English posters. Yes, the gift should at least cover the meal. Stay home if you feel differently. Where you can you go for two people, dinner, music, free parking, etc. for under a hundred dollars. I think $100.00 is the starting point.

As far as being in the wedding party, say no if your heart is not there. The bride will manage and will find someone excited about being asked.

Hi Kim,
It is the though that counts when you have to plan a wedding and have to write down family, friends and reletives who you know who will be coming to the wedding and when we got married we had our church family help us prepare for our wedding plans, so hope that this helpful to others who are getting married as well.

Thanks,
Casimir T.Zigulis

Whhat is the etiquette for addressing the outer envelope for the wedding invitation for a gay married couple? My cousin recently married her partner and I'm at a loss on how to write her invite. What titles do I give them? Do I do Mrs. and Mrs. on one line or do I list them on separate lines with different last names? I don't know if either of them changed their last name and I'm not very close with them or my uncle. Thanks!